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Thursday, July 24, 2008 I posted recently about terminations. In the comments, Scott offered "...and never forget every person that is terminated has a number of friends still in the business waiting to become workplace dementors if you are not seen to be doing the right thing!"
This started me thinking, "what happens in an organization after a termination." The employee is gone. HR puts the evidence file away, closes the personnel folder and the vacant position filled. Is that it? These may be the process actions we take, however, the effects of a termination do not end there. The terminated employee is effected. The supervisor of the terminated employee is effected. The co-workers of the terminated employee are effected. In the end, the organization may very well be effected.
I am curious. How have terminations, or a specific termination, impacted you or your organization? Have you or your organization taken any proactive, conscious steps to mitigate potential negative effects? What have you had success with?
Let me know.
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Wednesday, July 9, 2008 Checking out 8 hours & a lunch, I saw my recent thoughts captured perfectly in a post by Deb. It really is freaky how she does that some times.
Deb writes, "people who get on our every last living nerve tend to teach us more about ourselves than those who don't.. . this, of course, depends on us paying attention to those lessons though. we've got to be aware, and think about these things before just automatically making it all about the other person."
Deb ends her post asking who is bugging us today. Well, since she asked.. . .the faces may change (and they do) but the traits below definitely get me going in the workplace:
I am not sure exactly what it has been, probably a combination of time, experience, and coaching, but I know that what Deb is saying is true. You can't change other people but you can control your reactions and responses to them. You can manage your relationships, you can manage your meetings, you can manage how you permit people to interact and engage with you. But, you have got to be awake, present and willing to accept that double edged sword . . . .it really is all about you.
I know the things that get me going, I know the reasons they get to me. I know that knowing doesn't automatically make me any less crabby when I come face to face with them. I know that knowing does help me to be less reactive.Knowing helps me to create some space between me and the "offender." Knowing helps me to get the demons in check and plan my response thoughtfully.
Most of the time.
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Sunday, June 15, 2008 There is only so much time in a day. You prioritize on the fly. You dedicate time to the things that you must do. You delegate the rest. Right?
Try this. Plan a vacation. Not a long weekend. Not 5 days. Not even 7 days. Go for 14 days. Go for more. Plan a vacation long enough that forces you to identify the tasks to be delegated out during your absence.
Identify the appropriate staff member(s) to assume responsibility and begin the hand-off a week before you leave so you are available for questions. Set up rules for email messages that can be routed to your junk folder or permanently deleted while you are out. Begin this a week or so before you leave.
Get my drift?
Go to work the week before vacation. What types of things are you doing now that you are not reviewing and recommending approval/disapproval of advanced leave, FMLA or leave without pay requests; reviewing results and adjudicating initial and final background investigations; or compiling information for the director's monthly worker's compensation report and tracking performance monitors?
There are some tasks that have been delegated directly to you and can not be delegated beyond you on a regular basis. Then, there are there others. What would happen if you did not take those back when you returned from vacation? What would happen if you provided staff the tools, training and authority to assume these responsibilities on a regular basis? What if you unsubscribed from the messages and news groups that filled up your junk folder over vacation?
How awesome of a delegator would you be then? More importantly, how much more effective could you be?
Thursday, May 22, 2008 Integrity, or lack thereof, is the one thing guaranteed to keep me awake at night.
There are times when what I have to say must be heard. There are times when I just want another person to know that I know they are not being truthful. There are times I want to take my stand, have my say and to h*** with the consequences. There are times when I choose to take this on. There are times when I do not. Is it wisdom that guides me when I choose to save it for another day?

Or am I falling down on the job?
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Tuesday, May 6, 2008 If you are interviewing a Millennial and find your thoughts shifting away from the applicant and to yourself, specifically to concerns about your ability to manage a Millennial, read this post at Great Leadership.
In particular listen up . . . being a good leader to Generation Y means being a good leader – period. When Millennials were asked, “How would you describe your dream boss”, the responses were good management skills, pleasant and easy to get along with, understanding and caring, flexible and open-minded, respects/values/appreciates employees, good communication skills.
Still worried about your ability to effectively manage a Millennial? Stop that right now. Look at this as an opportunity for your growth and development and a chance to refine the tools in your tool box. Step outside your comfort zone.
The Millennials are coming to you - be not afraid. Oh, how much you (and your staff) will gain.
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Wednesday, April 30, 2008 The difference between reading my Google Reader and not reading my Google Reader is learning. Bottom line: I don't learn if I don't read.
I'd like to call your attention to a few posts that I keep at arms length and acknowledge Team Building is For Suckers for adding a no-holds-barred 25 cent shot of caffeine to my day each and every time I read a post:
Click through, they are well worth your read!
Wednesday, February 20, 2008 You have a meeting on your calendar. You wouldn't be invited if your input wasn't important, right? I can hear the comments now but just go with me on this one.
Instead of looking at a meeting as an interference, a waste of time, or time taken away from "getting the job done," look at a meeting as your job. Look at your next meeting as an opportunity to connect, learn, influence, or set direction and that next meeting may just be the very best use of your time.
So, in conclusion, take your calcium, be nice to your friends and GO TO YOUR MEETINGS (Lisa)!
Thursday, February 14, 2008 People have problems. The far majority of my day is responding to problems. To respond, I must discuss. Sometimes I am ready to discuss problems with just about anyone who will listen, but really my discussions are with employees, supervisors, service line directors, my staff, and when appropriate, the union.
We work through emotions and initial reactions. We look at what information we have and attempt to differentiate facts from conclusions. We consider past precedent. We go to the attorneys for what ever black and white we can find. We debate the merits, the pros and the cons. We consider second thoughts, second opinions and second guessing. We consider mitigating circumstances. Then, we consider what is right. Sometimes I bring us to this point, sometimes I am brought to this point, and sometimes we find us there not really knowing how we got there but bottom line is, we are there.
I have had a fair amount of discussions recently and at times, among other things I may I hear myself saying, "yes, when you consider that, it does make a difference." "If this we me, I would expect the same consideration." "I didn't have that distinction before, I can see your point." "I don't agree but I can support that direction."
The discussions always go a little differently. I had a discussion recently with one other person. We worked through a problem. All of the issues were brought on the table, opinions, concerns and emotions were aired and in the end we came to an understanding. Although the outcome may be very different than my initial recommendation, I can support it.
The problem itself, the issues raised and the discussion participant is not important at all. What is important, for me, was something I did not say. As the discussion was coming to a close, I had a thought.
I thought about wisdom. I wondered how this discussion and my responses/reactions to this particular problem would have been different if I had the information, insight and understanding I have now, then. Where does the wisdom lie? Is it about being all knowing? About being able to surmise another's motivation, perception, preferred course of action?
Or, is it simply about being willing to engage in the conversation?
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Sunday, February 10, 2008 Teaching my daughter the wrong sequence of notes for guitar lessons. Mistake. Recycling the envelope with my credit card payment. Mistake. Ordering dessert and just about missing the beginning of The Pirates Who Don't Do Anything: A Veggie Tales Movie? Mistake. Ok maybe a little bit of design but 1 hour and 31 minutes of talking vegetables, can you blame me? Putting a wool sweater in the dryer. Mistake.
Everybody makes mistakes. What can you do when you make a mistake at work? Ask a Manager takes this question on and lays out a 4-step formula for proactively and professionally addressing mistakes at work: tell your boss what happened - immediately; take responsibility for the mistake; explain how it happened, and most importantly, explain how you plan to ensure it doesn't happen again.
As a manager, what can you do when employees come to you with a mistake? You can listen. You can assess. If the mistake was the result of a gap in knowledge or of an outdated or poorly planned process, you can provide the knowledge or revise the process. You can read Dan's advice at Great Leadership's about Turning Mistakes into Development.
Now, consider this. You train, you improve processes, you develop SOPs. You meet to discuss issues. You use mistakes as an opportunity to learn. Yet, in the presence this and of knowledge and experience, mistakes continue to occur. The mistakes you are seeing are not process mistakes. They are mistakes that reflect poor or incomplete thinking.
Thinking mistakes, for me, are the most difficult to get a firm grasp on. But getting a firm grasp on thinking mistakes is something I must do because with each mistake, I watch our hard earned credibility slip away.
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Thursday, January 3, 2008 I think I ran a stop sign on my way in to work. Relax, it was on medical center grounds, the place was empty and the speed limit was 20 mph. I think I did but am not totally sure. I may have stopped. I just do not remember stopping. I was too busy thinking.
When employees need assistance, HR is there to assist. To assist. So, what happens when the burden of an employee's responsibility is shifted to the shoulders of an HR staff member? For one, patience can be tested and frustrations can surface for all involved. Ahhh, people will say, "that's just the way things are." Ok, but does it have to be? I am thinking and here's how it's going so far . . . .
In HR, we are here to serve, right? I have said it, others have said it. In a serving role, we assist with locating addresses and completing forms. In a serving role, we answer questions and alleviate some fears. In a serving role, we classify positions, we set pay, we process performance awards, we recruit for positions. In a serving role, we do what we can to do what people ask us to do. We need 3 days notice, you give us 1 - we'll get it done. Of course we'll get it done, we are here to serve, right?
Well, what if that is not right? What if we are not here to serve but to provide a service. We have a responsibility to provide a service and shouldn't those using our services have a responsibility too? Shouldn't we hold them to that?
Can you say doormat? I do say this tongue in cheek but there are days when I have to wonder and, I am. Actually, I am doing more than wondering, I am thinking. I am thinking about reactivity and the time it takes away from planful actions, attention to detail and accuracy. I am thinking about trying to please everyone and not pleasing anyone. You can go to reasonable, communicated expectations, user friendly processes for our customers but that does not quite get at it for me right now. You can go to the big picture role of HR but that does not quite get at it either. This less of an HR function distinction conversation and more of an appropriate role or a relationship question. I am thinking about customer service. I am thinking about the right time, and the wrong time, to hold customers accountable. I am thinking about when it is ok, and right to say, "no, we are not able to assist you in this way."
I am thinking that HR is not here merely to serve and to support. We have a job to do; we have a service to provide. And I need everyone (in and out of HR) lined up and heading in the same direction for us to be able to provide it well.
I am thinking I need to set a new direction. I am thinking I need to articulate an appropriate role for HR. What do you think?
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Monday, November 12, 2007 If you prick me, do I not bleed? If you tickle me, do I not laugh?
Ok, quoting Shakespeare really is not my thing but you have absolutely got to get the human part of human resources. I am human and will not even pretend to be perfect. I do work hard and have good intentions but you know what they say, that and $3.95, plus tax, may get you a tiny Fa La Latte at Caribou this holiday season. HR leaders tend to have thicker skin than most of the professional world, really. It's a fact, proven by someone, somewhere . . . I am sure. Well, pretty sure.
Let's say that someone comes into your office and questions a policy, practice or procedure of yours. Or, you send an e-mail to communicate some not so great news and one of the recipients tells you that it did not come across well and caused some hard feelings. Or, you make a decision (definitely your decision to make), you get a look at your conscience via another person's raised eyebrows. What do you do?
Do you look at them like they are crazy; write them off and not return their calls; minimize the presenters and their opinions; keep telling them why you do things a certain way (throwing in a regulation, big phrase or directive here and there for effect) until you wear them down and they simply give up; do you get get anxious, feel threatened and withdraw; or some variation on the theme? Been there, done that and know that it really does not serve any one well. Knowing doesn't make it any easier and knowing doesn't mean that my first instinct won't be shaded just a little bit by some defensiveness.
So what do I do? What can you do? When you feel it coming on, take a deep breath, grab a pencil, and do everything you can to quiet the internal noise (read:ego) so that you can listen.
Breathe. It is so easy to take these ideas, suggestions, challenges personally. Don't.
Grab a pencil. Why? Pencils are easier to break than pens. Better yet, grab something softer and less likely to make a cracking sound when you break it under your desk as you work hard to keep an open mind. Yes, it is hard to sit there and listen without thinking at some point, "Who are you to tell me how to do my job or to even suggest that I may not be doing it well. . . ." Ah, there it is, the ego. Break the pencil, crush the cookie, release the tension and get back in the game.
Listen. If you don't listen, people will stop talking. If you want to learn, you have got to listen. There may be a better way out there. There may be a system or process refinement you can adapt. This may be the time to build or enhance a relationship, to share or further refine your values, directions or goals or better yet, to make a connection.
Process. Are you resisting? If so, why? Is it fear of the unknown? Is it about having to be right? Does the suggestion get at a core value? Need more facts? Start researching. Is it within your control to adapt or deny? Is the ego trying to take over? Don't let it.Talk it out with someone else. After some consideration, it may be the time to flat out say "No, not under my watch." The point is, you won't know unless you listen.
Respond. Respond from a willingness to consider, a desire to learn and grow, or an opportunity to model leadership. Respond from anything but a position of defensiveness.
Granted, some times this works better than others so if you make a mess, make sure you go back and clean it up. People are likely to move past or even forget the issue at hand however, the effects of your (my) behavior during and after the interaction can linger far longer.
Hey, break a pencil and listen. It's all about continuous learning.
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Tuesday, September 11, 2007 Parenting and leadership. . . the worlds continue to collide and compliment.
Here was my evening yesterday. I picked the kid up from day care to go to guitar lessons (hers, not mine). Have to stop for a chocolate chip cookie with M&Ms and a soda to get her through the transition to dinner. We hit every light traveling across town and when we should have been tuning her guitar, we were not. Where were we? We were sitting at a stop light. Aaargh! "Chillax," I hear from the backseat. "Other moms don't get upset about being late. Just chillax, it's the new thing!" What?! Is this my 6 1/2 (can't forget the 1/2) telling me to chill out? To relax? Yup!
Ok. We are in guitar lessons and the kid shows the instructor the new voice she learned - voice 3 of Hot Cross Buns. Instructor watched, acknowledged her learning and then wondered aloud (to me) how she got the fingering she did for string 3, fret 1. Turns out I counted the frets (or was it the strings) wrong, very wrong. He showed me how to count properly and then asked the kid to play it again. She ran her hands down her face and neck and looked at the ceiling as she said, "I . . . am. . . so. . . confused." I am too kid, I am too. Oh, other moms, I saw you looking away in the glory that you were not the center of attention this time but your time will come. Do you really know the strings and frets or do you also rely on the the colored smiley face stickers for finger placement?!
The evening continues. School pictures are tomorrow so I pick out the outfit I'd like her to wear. It, unfortunately, is not the one she had in mind. Not only is her selected outfit comprised of parts of two other outfits (can't separate the matched sets, kid) but it was not going to keep her warm. And, honestly, I didn't like the combination. Tears ensued and Deborah Tannen's book came to mind as I said more than once, "I don't want you to wear that." What did I do? I put aside my deal about not separating matched sets, remembered it was all about the little girl curled up in my lap and suggested we find stockings or legging to keep her warm in her outfit of choice. As we were searching, the kid came up with a deal. She would wear what I wanted for her pictures if she could wear whatever she wanted the following day. Palms licked, hands shaken and deal sealed. So proud of her (and just a little disappointed in myself).
Leaders, do you know when it is time to "chillax?" Do you really? Do you do it? So much perspective can be gained by stopping, breathing and just being. Do yourself a favor, "chillax" over an issue gnawing at you right now. Give yourself room to be human, room to be less than perfect, room to let the other person shine. Support your colleagues. You never know when it will be your turn in the spotlight.
Above all, never forget what is most important and keep it in front of you at all times.
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Wednesday, June 27, 2007 My shuttle will be here shortly to take me to the airport to the plane that will take me home and back to reality so before I get caught up in the madness of reentry into the office, I wanted to take a few quick minutes to share some "golden nuggets" I am taking away from the SHRM conference:
With that, the shuttle will be here in 10 minutes so my time is done. Good bye Las Vegas!
Wednesday, May 9, 2007 The universe has a way of calling us out.
About a month ago, I pulled out my copy of The Artist's Way. I purchased the book a few years ago, never got past the first chapter and felt that it was time to give it another try. I read through the 1st chapter and right on to the second. If you have ever read this book, you will know that a very huge part of the "program" is morning pages. Morning pages are "three pages of longhand writing, strictly stream-of-consciousness . . .brain drain." I bought a notebook to use for my morning pages and did them for the first week, went into the second week and then, there it was again - the wall. I just did not make it past this point. I went a little further than last time, but not quite to chapter 3.
Why? Simply a matter of practicality. I am up between 4:30 and 4:45 each morning as it is and getting up another 20 minutes earlier just was not feasible for me. On the few days that I made it to the gym, it was all I could do to stay upright on the treadmill. I decided last night that it was time to put this away until my life could support it better, until I felt I was willing to make the time/changes necessary to get it done.
Now, imagine my surprise when I open my Google Reader and see this post from Deb about creativity - the very focus of The Artist's Way and this by the Brazen Careerist about the value of writing by hand to gain focus. Ah, morning pages.
Am I being called out? Well, the two posts did give me pause but I am clear that I really am not willing to fit this particular approach to creativity into my life right now. There are other things I am doing to bring out my creativity - working with my daughter's new Aqua Dots is one, this blog is another.
The Artist's Way? No, not today, but definitely some day.
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Friday, April 27, 2007 People don't promote people they don't like and they won't support them either. Without workplace support, you will not have the opportunity for advancement, stretch assignments or simply, the opportunity to succeed.
I am supported in the workplace and my job is infinitely easier because of this support. I am not revered by any means (darn!) but I do feel that when I have something to say, people listen and when things go south, I am given the benefit of the doubt. I know that I could not do what I do everyday without the support I receive and frankly, I would not even want to try. Some days, it really is the only thing that keeps me from walking right out the back door.
As a leader, when I offer and provide support, I am in it for the long haul. I am not on the first life boat out when there is a problem, nor do I only support the super-stars. When my staff thanks me for my support, I let them know that supporting them is one of the easiest things I do each day. Really. They work hard, they are forthright with information and concerns and they keep me informed. I trust what they tell me and they never let me down.
I will not offer support to any person who refuses to try or is less than truthful: it is both a matter of integrity and practicality. Hey, I need the continued support of others too.
In all, you must be true to yourself. Try as you might, sometimes there just is not a good match between you and others in your organization. No matter what you do, the workplace support you need or the support you are asked to provide is just not coming In these instances, take my advice and find another organization. Do it quickly.
It may not take a village but I am clear I could not do it on my own.
Thank you.
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Thursday, April 19, 2007 There are things that are fun and then there are things that are not. Being on the receiving end of a scathing email is most definitely one of the "nots."
Ever wonder why this occurs? I do. While my own personal opinion (read: rant and rave) may be of interest to some, it would not offer much in the way of constructive reasons. Instead, I would like to refer you to Will Schwalbe's post on Brazen Careerist, Send: Why Good People Send Savage Emails. Will offers some excellent points and one that I found insightful was the result of a study that concluded that the pain we receive seems more painful than the pain we produce.
Knowing this can provide you with a healthy perspective when a scathing email arrives in your mailbox. You know how it goes. . . your heart is racing, hands shaking, and you are literally ready to pounce. What do you do?! Responding to these messages in kind is a lose-lose situation and any pleasure you may feel as you hit the send bottom and think, "I'll show you" will be short lived. As Will points out, in responding, you may be as responsible for the escalation as the other party.
So what do you do? You disengage. You put your hands in the air, step away from the keyboard and head for the nearest box of chocolate or your vice of choice. When you come back to the keyboard, select the email, and hit DELETE.
Still thinking about responding to that email? Don't, it really is not worth it in the end. You are better than that.
Thursday, April 12, 2007 My new favorite line is from Penelope Trunk at Brazen Careerist. In her recent post, if someone is bugging you, change yourself, she writes, " The people you work with are not idiots. It is just that some people are unable to see things like you do. You need to figure out how they see things, accept it and work around their deficits. "
Work around their deficits, I love it. I can see myself using this phrase a bunch from here on out as I listen to the rants and raves. Heck, we all have the cross of our own deficits to bear and knowing that I can get along with people if I choose moves me from a powerless position of reaction to one of empowerment.
Overall, I am a pretty effective leader and as I began to think about Penelope's post and consider how this could impact me and my leadership I had a thought . . . is it that I am effective or could it be that my staff are effective in managing me and my deficits?! Things that make you go "hmmmmmm."
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Friday, April 6, 2007 "We have over 1000 crew members serving you and they represent over 60 different countries," said the Cruise Director. Yikes, I don't think I could name 60 countries!
Right after that, my HR mind went right to - where do you put them, what are their sleeping arrangements, how do you staff a crew of over 1,000, are they all employees, contracted out, or hired on a temporary basis, what about communication and religious/cultural differences - how are these addressed, how do you staff for illnesses at sea - do you always carry a certain % of over ceiling staff, how much do you rely on the local economy at each port for services - and on and on.
I never asked the questions so do not have the answers but what I do have is a memory of an organization who, from this customer's perspective, got it right. The service was unbelievable and everyone, absolutely everyone was working towards the same goal - providing a signature experience.
I am pretty well traveled and will not ever forget the first time I realized while traveling abroad (I think I was sitting beside an Italian lake drinking espresso) that not everyone wants to be an American. Couldn't believe it at the time, it was shocking to me but it is true. Everyone has something to offer and it makes us all richer when we are open to seeing and accepting their gifts.
Recognizing differences, often the focus of diversity efforts , was not the approach this cruise ship took with their staff and customers. I saw it as celebrating and honoring uniqueness and I think whether you are on the boat or off, it is something we all could learn from.
Thursday, March 22, 2007 What does it mean to be a model student? A model leader? A model manager? A model anything?
My daughter's spring conference with her kindergarten teacher was this week and basically, we were told that she is a model student, a kindergarten teacher's dream. She didn't really know what that meant but she did get what her teacher said about listening, doing quality work, knowing her numbers and letters, being nice to her friends, helping other students out. She is also a 6 year old with a lot of energy and ideas and fun and she shares that with others.
So, inquiring minds wanted to know . . . was I a model mother, manager, wife, co-worker, friend? Depends on how you define model. Define it as someone who tries to follow her heart and do what's right, learns from the many mistakes she makes and although she doesn't always get it right, keeps on trying. Yes. Define model any other way and probably not. And, there are so many ways to do so.
What I have learned over the years and I hope to teach my daughter, and model for others, is that it is not how others define it, it is how you define it for yourself and that whether you are student, a peer, a leader, manager, coach, parent or daughter being true to yourself is the one thing worth modeling.
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Monday, February 26, 2007 I am not one for conferences and expositions. The series of 1 hour shots of wisdom, blasts of optimism, or accounting of organizational successes leave me wanting for more. I want the time to be able to process and discuss. I want the time to roll up my sleeves and engage in small group, peer to peer discussions and not just listen as one of 200 or more. I have been a member of the Society for Human Resource Management (SHRM) for over 10 years and have never been to an annual national conference.
I am going to the SHRM national conference in June. I am not going to visit Las Vegas (I don’t gamble well so I don’t gamble), not going to listen to Lance Armstrong (Sheryl Crow maybe) or to see Michael McDonald sing (who is he anyway?). I am going for a course with substance.
Listen to this. If this program description doesn’t capture it for me, not sure what would. "Pressures in the public sector are ever greater. Expectations around performance and accountability are increasing, budgets are always tight and compensation and other programs are restricted by policy and regulation and the expectations of the organization’s constituencies are often conflicting." This seminar sponsored by Harvard Business School Publishing promises hands-on and peer to peer learning and ideas presented by some of the world’s foremost thinkers and researchers.
"HR in the Public Sector: Meeting Critical Business Challenges" is right up my alley. It is akin to a "play book" for the public sector. The seminar is only being offered during the SHRM national convention so I applied on Thursday and was accepted on Friday.
See you in Las Vegas!
Lisa |
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